Finding someone to date who isn't a total trash human being is tough. It's even worse when you find someone, develop a crush, and then they don't like you back.
You might be silently cursing yourself out and promising you'll never try again but there are ways to make that feeling pass.
It Will Get Better
It takes a lot of courage to finally take that step and admit your feelings to someone you're into. You play it in your head a thousand times and try to prepare yourself for the worst-case scenario. Except you still never feel prepared enough to actually receive the rejection.
If you've confessed your feelings to someone and they weren't interested, here are 10 ways to get over the rejection and move on.
Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind
The best thing you can do for yourself is to try not to think about it. The more you think about the moment you revealed your crush, the worse it will seem. Keep your distance from them as much as possible so you don't have any reminders.
Try to let it go, put it behind you, and stop overthinking it! It was brave to make the first move and you'll learn from it.
Remind Yourself Of How Great You Are
After a rejection, it's natural a natural impulse to put yourself down, but don't give in to that impulse. Just because they're not interested, it doesn't mean you're not a catch.
Maybe they're not ready for a relationship. Either way, you're awesome, and don't let them make you think anything less. Write it down if you have to.
Remember, Rejection Is Hard For Them Too
It's classic to feel angry about being rejected, but don't make them a villain. People have a right not to like you. There's a chance that you'll also have to turn someone down one day, and it's not easy.
Chances are they feel really bad, especially if it's someone who already cared about you.
Music Is Your New Best Friend
A foolproof way to distract yourself and get over a crush is to find a song and channel your feelings. It's what we all used to do in middle school and high school, so why not continue into adulthood?
Give yourself a weekend to mourn, find your anthem, and get it out of your system. Dance and sing it out—it's quite therapeutic.
Write Them A Letter You Won't Send
It might seem a little silly at first, but writing them a letter and ripping it up is a great way to get your feelings out and get over it. Tell them why you think they made the wrong choice and what they're missing out on, and then get rid of it.
This is something you're doing for yourself to get closure, and they don't need to see it.
You Can Still Be Friends With Them
If you've made the brave decision to tell someone who is already a friend that you have feelings for them, a rejection doesn't have to be the end of your friendship.
Things may be a little bit awkward at first, but it'll get better if you're willing to make it happen. Just give it time and you'll both readapt.
There Are Other Fish In The Sea
Nothing helps you move on more than focusing your time and energy into some other hottie. Look at your favorite qualities of your crush and see if anyone else fits the bill.
Thankfully, thanks to dating apps, there are plenty of potential mates at the tip of your finger. Even if you're not ready just yet, it'll be a good ego boost and distraction.
Just Leave It All Behind And Travel
It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, but planning a vacation is a great way to focus your mind on something other than rejection.
Even a weekend away with a close friend should do it! Depending on your time and budget, you can even stay within your city and stay at a fancy hotel for a night.
Sometimes, things can get to be a bit much, especially finding out your crush doesn't like you, but meditation can help! It's a great way to feel at one with your body and completely clear your mind. It can also help with other areas of your life.
Plus, it'll leave you feeling more balanced and connected with yourself, the only person you should be focusing on.
Don't Rush Yourself
One of the best things that you can do is to take your time to feel better. Don't rush yourself or push yourself to feel like you're over it before you are, because you'll be forced to deal with it either way.
Spend Time With People You Love
Talking it out with the people you love and just hanging out with them is a great way to remind yourself that you have relationships in your life that are fulfilling and loving.
Take Up A New Hobby
Sometimes distraction is the name of the game, and one of the best ways to do that is taking up a new hobby that you've always been interested in. Bonus points if it's something that will keep your hands busy and your head.
Binge-Watch Some Rom-Coms
You have to cry it out. It will feel so good to have a good cry and watch some romantic comedies. It will help you get all those feelings out and probably remind you that love is out there.
Reframe Your Feelings
Sometimes reframing your feelings will help you, especially if you intend to still be their friend. Being close with someone and sharing vulnerabilities and good times will certainly make you feel some things for someone, but you don't have to date them or have romantic feelings for them to enjoy that.
Try Your Best Not To Obsess
It's easier said than done, but don't let it be the thing that occupies all your mental energy. You're allowed to think about it and mourn and process, but make sure you don't cross the line into obsession.
Learn Something New
When you're dealing with some heartache, a great thing to do is to channel that emotional energy into learning something new. Take an online class or pick up a few books on a subject that interests you.
Start Keeping A Journal
Journaling is an excellent way to keep track of your feelings and go on those long rambling rants that you sometimes have in your head that you don't want to annoy your friends or family with...or maybe you're just tired of talking about it.
Think About Seeing A Therapist
If you're having a really hard time working through the rejection, there is no harm in seeking some professional help. Seeing a therapist for a session or two will help you with finding some good coping mechanisms.
Do Something To Make Yourself Feel Special
You have to remind yourself that you're loveable and special, and a good way to do that is to love and enjoy yourself. Do something to pamper yourself and really spend time with your self-care.