Dating in this day and age is pretty much 50% online and 50% in real life. Before you even meet up with that Tinder date, you've scoped out which pets they have, what shade of light brown boat slides they wear, and who their best friend from band camp was. Then, once you've actually met, you start "talking" which just means texting 24/7 and that's a whole other unfamiliar hell.
If you're staring at your phone and wondering if the cat GIFs and eggplant emojis he's sending you actually mean he likes you, then you need to read this. If he's sending these messages then you can pretty much bet he's got it bad for you.
He Hits You With The "Good Morning"
If you're waking up to the sounds of birds chirping and a genuinely sweet little message wishing you a good morning then he's hook, line, and sinker for you. You're the first thing he thinks about when he wakes up and he wants you to think about him too.
Which is a nice change from the regular emotional turmoil abyss you normally feel.
He Ignores His Beer-Funnel Partner Brian To Text You Back
A lot of guys hold bro-time up as a sacred and special bonding ritual that turns men into brothers. Normally it's a strict no text zone where bro-law rules.
But if he's risking it all to text you back when he's hanging with the buds, then you know you mean something special to him.
He's Constantly Texting You
Let's not kid ourselves, we're on our phones a lot. But most of us ignore messages until we're really in a zen place and ready to respond to them.
If your guy is texting you back faster than what's humanly possible and breaking that "zen" headspace barrier, then texting you like, makes him happy. Woah.
His Thumb's Not Glued To The Eggplant Emoji
Sexting is cute, but when it's a new relationship or flirtation thing or cosmic union or whatever messy thing you guys have going on together, it can be a little too forward.
If he respects you by not be overtly disgustingly flirty (a bit is obviously okay) then he's willing to reign in the hormones to have a pleasant conversation with you. Cute.
He's Picking Up Details In your Conversation And... Shocker, Asking You About Them
This is also called "being good at talking." But we're living in a world where a lot of people are more content to talk about themselves than actually ask you about the information you're providing.
So if he's good at holding a basic conversation (the bar is low), then chances are he like likes you.
He Hits You With That Random Anecdote About That Bird He Saw Yesterday
Maybe you guys haven't seen each other in a while or maybe you have, either way, he wants to read a message from you and feels comfortable enough to send you some random weird stuff.
So he sends you a story about the bird he saw outside his work that reminded him of a Black Eyed Peas lyric and do you think that Fergie is still making music? Nice.
He's Not Afraid To Hit You With The Double, Triple, Quadruple Text
Okay, so there's a line obviously before this becomes creepy, like texting you so much you feel like he's morphed into the obsessive killer from Creep, but before that, it's kind of cute.
Sending you multiple messages means this prince doesn't care about social conventions as long as he gets to talk to you. Awhhhh.
He Texts You When He's Showering, Leaving The House, On The Subway, And When He's Arrived
Bottom line: he respects your time. If he's into letting you know exactly when and where he's going to be then you've got yourself a man who's not going to string you along.
But careful, watch out for the people who text you "almost there" when they're still sitting in bed eating their cereal, because they are out there.
He Is An Emoji Man (hearteyes)
If he's liberal with his emoji usage and general expressiveness and peppiness over text, then he's into you and that's no mistake.
Any man who's got a healthy stack of emojis he's using isn't shy about communicating that he's into you and it's really alright as long as he's not using the sweat droplets one. You know the one.
He Gives You A Nickname That Isn't "Hey You"
You know you've made it in your rec-soccer league coach's eyes when they only call you by your last name—the same rules apply to dating men. If he's given you a cute nickname that only he calls you then it's a sign he's trying to make you guys closer.
So take a shot at it and give him one too. "Champ" or "buddy" always works well.
He Asks You How Long You're Going To Be In Town
For adults, this is a big one. He's wondering what your career moves are and whether they're going to take you out of the municipality within the next year or so.
These kinds of questions mean he's genuinely invested in the long term between you guys and that's really, really sweet.
He's Not Afraid To Pay You A Compliment (That's Not "Ur Hot Let's Hook Up")
Some guys get weird and bashful about paying you compliments. But it's literally the most surefire way to know that he's interested so they should really get over it.
If he's texting you that he loves your smile then try not to have a heart attack over how cute that is because it's a sign he genuinely likes you.
You Don't Feel Like He's Treating You Like A Broski
If he's hitting you with the "bro" "dude" and general frat boy slang that he uses with his boys when they're tossing back some Natty Lights just get out of there because that's a man who doesn't know what he wants.
If he's texting you like you're one of the guys then you need to leave before he invites you over for poker on Saturday night in his brother Joel's basement.
He's Asking You About Your Gluten-Free Spelt Pasta Alfredo For Lunch
Texting you throughout the day actually genuinely showing interest in the things you do and asking how everything is going is a major love language for most people.
So if he's trying to make you feel heard and special, I sincerely give you permission to go all gooey inside.
"If I Was There"
If even when you two are apart he's texting you telling you what he'd do if he were there it's pretty clear he likes you and is imagining spending more time together.
Plus, it's a great way to make a family vacation you're on with your parents less boring if you're imagining that he's there making things less... Disney at Disney World.
Jane Austen Is Shook Because He's Sending You Some Novels
If he's putting in the time and work into telling you about the incredible marinara sauce he made last night over text then you can really see he's invested in the conversation and genuinely cares about you feeling immersed in the story.
There's nothing worse than a dude with such poor communication and relationship skills that he can't get past the "good hbu" texting threshold.
He Lets You In. Emotionally, That Is.
If he's opening up about some personal stuff over text that can mean that a) he's really messed up about it in a way that's not healthy and is a huge red flag, or b) he trusts you enough to let you see his gooey vulnerable side.
I'll let you be the judge of which one it is.
He's Giving You 48 Hours Notice To Confirm Plans
If he likes you then he's casually mentioning hanging out on Friday, and by Thursday morning he's asked you if you're still game.
If he's confirming the really sick waterskiing and bistro-hopping date that you guys have planned for Friday then it just shows that he's looking forward to the time you two are spending together.
He's Not Too Much Of A Shy-Guy To Text First
If he's not afraid to show interest in you and let you know he's thinking about you then he's a grown adult who wants more than just a texting relationship.
Only kids get weird about texting you first and honestly, we are not game to be a mothering girlfriend or boyfriend type.
Here's A Curveball For You: He Likes You If He Doesn't Send Multiple Texts In A Row
I know this contradicts my whole "he likes you if he sends multiple texts" but the same can also be true if he doesn't. If he really likes you, sometimes he can be too nervous to send multiples and sends only one really long one.
IDK. Maybe if he's texting you at all it means he's interested? That's basically the only knowledge we can trust at this point.
He Sends You Things He Knows Will Make You Laugh
When he comes across a meme or a tweet he knows will make you smile, he goes out of his way to send it to you.
He wants to be a reason you're laughing, and maybe it will turn into an inside joke.
He's Always Bringing Up Inside Jokes
Inside jokes are like this fun kind of intimacy, because it's something you only share with that one person.
And it just gets more and more ridiculous every time it gets brought up.
He Sends You Goodnight Texts
The goodnight texts are just as important as the good morning ones!
Especially when he's telling you to have a good sleep and that he will talk to you the next day!
He'll Send You Cute Drunk Texts That Kind Of Make Sense
When he's out with the boys and has had a few beers, you're on his mind and he wants to let you know!
He'll send you cute boozy texts that aren't him being creepy and coming on to you.
They Reply Quickly When They Can
Life is busy, and we all work and have stuff going on.
But you know you can count on him to text you back right when he has a moment to do so.
They're Not Afraid To Admit They've Dropped The Ball
If he knows he's been a little MIA or did something he wishes he hadn't, he'll own up to it.
Most of the time without you even having to bring it up.
He Suggests Cute Things That You Should Do Together
If he's out doing things on his own or with friends, or if he even has an idea of something fun to do, he always tells you about it.
Better yet, he always includes you in those plans.
He Saves The Important Stuff For When You're Together
Even though you're texting through most of the day, he keeps the big and important things for when you two are together.
He even makes plans to have those exciting conversations.
He Sends You Random Selfies
Who doesn't love getting goofy selfies from the person they're into?
If he's sending you pictures of himself throughout the day to make you laugh or smile, that's a great sign that he's into you.
He Wants To Keep You In The Loop
You don't have to harass him into telling you about his day and what he's got going on, and he has the courtesy to keep you in the loop.
This way, you know when you can make plans.