Being in a relationship with a guy is tricky. The women of the world already don't get enough credit, but they deserve more for putting up with men.
Ladies, if you have a partner and things start not to add up, he could have ulterior motives. For instance, he could want to be single again, and if you think that's the case, here are some clues to help you.
He's Happier With Others
As a girlfriend, you should be your man's peace. If that isn't the case, others might make him happier, and that isn't a great sign for the relationship you have.
He Becomes Friendlier With Other Women
This might be one of the easiest signs to spot. He might say not to worry about it, but if hasn't shown this behavior in the past, then you should fret.
He Can't Stand Certain Things About You
Before, he never made a sound about the things that annoy him now. If he's starting to vocalize what upsets him about you, this man might be ready to leave.
He Becomes Less Affectionate
What happened to all the love he used to show you every day? Is it dwindling down the drain like a slow leak? He might be ready to move on from you.
He Can't Seem To Commit
Summer is around the corner, which means you two will have plenty of opportunities to hang out, except he can't commit. You want to go to this new food spot on Friday, but he's not sure he's available yet. If this behavior continues, I'm sorry.
He Prefers Making Time For His Friends
"Sorry babe, the guys want to check out the lounge tonight," he says. One time isn't too bad, but be aware if this becomes a pattern, because he could leave and not want to come back next time.
Picking Fights All The Time
Can you go for a few hours without arguing? If so, you're fine, but if those heated debates happen more often than usual, you might be in some hot water. Something is eating him up inside.
He Stops Answering Texts When He's Out
Depending on the relationship, you two probably don't worry too much about getting a text back while enjoying yourself. If he ghosts your text that he usually responds to, there might be something there.
He Begins Imagining Life Without You
How would one know that he's imagining a new life? If he starts saying things about his future that you've never heard before, that's one sign right there. If nothing he brings up involves you, that's not good.
His Friends Don't Communicate With You Anymore
Before, you used to be pals with his close friends. Now, you hardly talk to them and it could be because he's told them he's planning on leaving the relationship soon.
He's Always Exhausted
Don't look now, but it looks like he doesn't have the energy to communicate and do things with you like he used to. Is he tired, or is he fed up with the relationship? Have a talk with him and find out, please.
He Says You Deserve Better
If your man tells you that you deserve better, then it's best if you listen to him. It probably isn't worth your time trying to make him stay at this point.
He Isn't Close To You Anymore
Your feelings probably haven't changed, but his have. Even if you think he's the love of your life, that might not be how he feels. If you notice some extra distance he created, it might be time to talk.
No More Posting Photos Of You
His feed used to be all you, but that's not how it looks anymore. These days, you haven't even appeared in his story on Instagram or Snapchat. Do you think he might want to leave?
You Spend Time With Him Indoors
Perhaps he doesn't want to show you to the public anymore. If you two only spend time indoors lately, he probably wants to seem like he's a single man, not a taken one.
He Mentions Other Qualities In Women He Likes
All of sudden, he starts mentioning qualities in women that he likes, but you don't possess any of them. He could be hinting that he wants you to change, or that he's searching for another hot ticket.
He Starts Giving You Space
If he gets super excited when you tell him it's a girls' night out, you could be in trouble. This eagerness to see you have fun with your friends means he wants space and he's finally getting some.
He Cancels Plans On You
It wasn't a habit in the past, but now it seems like all he does is cancel the plans you two confirmed. If that's the case, you might want to download Tinder.
Leaving You Out Of Important Decisions
You two were once a team when it came to deciding things. Now, he doesn't care that there isn't a, I in "team." Him making decisions without your help could spell the end.
He Wants Things To Be More "Casual"
Life between you two isn't as romantic as it once was and is now more casual. Is he only contacting you when it's convenient for him? That's how single guys operate...
He Shies Away From Labels
In a newer relationship, you might be at the point where you're ready to start calling him your boyfriend, but when you bring it up, he avoids the topic or says he isn't interested in labels. If he was fully committed, why would he care about labels?
He Doesn't Want To Bring You Along To Family Events
He conveniently forgot to mention that he was going to dinner at his parents' house or that his sister was going to be coming into town to visit. Once you meet the family, it's a lot harder to backtrack in a relationship or break up with someone.
He Brings Up His Ex—A Lot
It seems like any time there's an opportunity to bring up his ex, he does it, or he creates the opportunities himself. Are there unresolved feelings there? Is he dreaming of past relationships or times when you weren't together?
He Questions You Or Your Actions
He may not be picking full-on fights, but he seems to spend a lot of time critiquing what you're doing, judging your actions, or questioning your decisions. That type of behavior often comes from a lack of trust and could show he's ready to move on.
He Warns You He's Going To Be Getting Busy Soon
If you're just starting to see someone new and they give you the warning that they might not be able to see you as much in the coming weeks, or they are preparing for a super busy time at work, that's usually a nice way of trying to tell you he's not interested in putting the effort in.
He's Focusing On His Physical Appearance
I'm all for someone getting healthy or focusing on getting in shape. A newfound obsession with going to the gym seven days a week, changing his style completely, and prepping this new and improved version of himself is a different situation, though.
He's Not As Interested In You Physically
A physical connection isn't the only thing that matters, but it's certainly a part of a relationship. If there's been a dramatic shift in his level of interest physically, it's hard not to wonder if he's less interested in you in general.
He Stops Paying For You
He's by no means required to pay for you just because he's the man in the relationship. It's about the shift in the dynamic. If he used to always insist on paying for dinner or filling your car with gas or buying you random gifts, it's going to be noticeable when that just suddenly stops.
He's Not Interested In PDA
Public displays of affection aren't for everyone, but chances are if your man used to be all about showing off in public and now he's suddenly not, there's a reason for it. He doesn't necessarily want to make it obvious that you're together.
He Stops Listening To You
When it gets to the point where he no longer listens to what you're saying or doesn't care enough to pay attention, you know that's a sign that there are bigger things going on.