12+ Reasons Why The More Amazing You Are, The Harder It Is To Find Love

Believe it or not, being single for a long period of time is not a bad sign or a dreaded "red flag."

A lot of times it means that someone is just waiting to find a partner who meets their standards and is worth their time.

You Can Be Single For A Long Time And Still Be A Total Catch

If you're living the single life and can't seem to settle down with one person, maybe it's because you just haven't met someone who can handle everything you bring to the table.

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There are a handful of reasons why you're single even though you're a total catch.

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It Can Be Hard To Find Someone Who Matches Your Energy

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Sometimes it comes down to the fact that the more amazing you are as a person and partner, the harder it is to find someone who can match your energy.

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That includes having similar motivations, values, and goals.

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It's Natural To Seek Out A Partner Who Can Keep Up With You

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Even if you don't feel like you have insanely high expectations, you will naturally seek out a partner who can keep up with you. They're harder to find than you might think.

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After a certain number of bad dates and failed attempts it feels easier just to stay single.

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People Can Tell When You Have A Winning Personality

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If you have an awesome personality, people around you will recognize it quickly.

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Friends and family will sing your praises and any potential dates may feel intimidated by your reputation.

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Men Won't Make The First Move

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It's obviously a good thing to have a likable personality. The majority of guys will be immediately attracted to your clever charm.

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However, a lot of men will also get the impression that you're a little too awesome and probably out of their league. As a result, they never make a move.

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Your Loud Personality Can Be Intimidating

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Your personality is loud in the best way possible, and you also stand up for what you believe in and don't back down when someone challenges your opinions.

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It's a great life skill but it can be intimidating to men when it comes to relationships.

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Wait For A Partner Who Can Handle Your Personality

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You should never have to tone down your personality for anyone, so if the guy you're dating asks you to, it's a sign of insecurity.

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Truly awesome women are a mixture of emotion, skill, personality, and passion and some men don't want to keep up with that.

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You Could Have Had Multiple Relationships Already

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You're not willing to settle for less than what you deserve at work so why would you do it in your relationship?

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You definitely could have had a boyfriend by now (probably a few) if you lowered your expectations but you know it's not worth it.

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A Great Partner Can Even Help Raise Your Current Expectations

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There is someone out there who can easily smash through your expectations and even help you raise them.

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You're just going to have to look harder for them, and it might take longer.

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Your Confidence Intimidates Some Men

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Confident women radiate assurance while letting people know that they have an idea of what they're after.

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Some men see this and it scares them away before they actually get to know you.

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Your Social Butterfly Behavior Is Seen As Competition

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Confident women can also be social butterflies, chatting with everyone in a room.

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For some men, this is an intimidating thing to navigate and they can't wrap their heads around her attention being split.

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You're Comfortable With Being Alone

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If you're a woman with a strong sense of self-confidence, you can become quite comfortable with being alone.

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You don't need a man to make your life whole and the men that you are dating can sense that. If they can't be mature enough to accept it, it pushes them away.

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You Know What You Want

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You know exactly what you want and you're not afraid to ask for it. Some men are going to see this as a great quality based on open communication.

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Unfortunately, others are going to see it as pushy, entitled, or demanding. Those men aren't worth your time.

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Still, Keep An Open Mind When You Meet New People

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Knowing what you want is a good thing, but remember that your "wants" can also change over time.

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It's important to keep an open mind when you meet new guys -- they may surprise you.

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You Draw Unwanted Attention To Yourself From The Wrong People

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It's not your fault, but one of the side effects of being amazing is that you draw unwanted attention to yourself.

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A lot of people can see what a catch you are and while you might have some genuinely wonderful guys who want to date you, you're also going to have to navigate some wild cards.

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You Have An Extremely Busy Lifestyle

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You have a busy lifestyle that caters to your personal goals and lifestyle. For a lot of people, that independent lifestyle is super attractive.

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But for some guys, it's too much of a competition for your time and they write you off. Hey, it's their loss.

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You Expect The Effort You Put Out To Be Returned

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Relationships are all about give and take, but they can quickly become unbalanced if someone is putting in more effort than their partner.

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You are someone who expects to get as much in return as they give to a partner, and that's fair.

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Someone Will Be Willing To Meet You In The Middle

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It's a matter of finding a partner who's willing to meet you in the middle and put as much effort into the relationship as you are.

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The right person is out there, it's just a matter of taking the time to find them, and getting to know yourself in the meantime.